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Goal

The intention of the Resonant Feedback is:

• to facilitate the process of uncovering the resources within,
• help you see what animates you to your deepest core and
• integrate the congruence between your vision, values and actions you take. From that new posture, you may either revise your way of doing things by staying in the same activity – and reorient your actions through little tweaks , or shift the framework entirely through taking a whole new path.

Who the work is most suitable for

You may be a leader, an entrepreneur, a manager but also a former or an actual employee.

And you're either burned out: You remain attached to your job/craft/company... but

• You have become exhausted, you constantly feel tired
• You've lost touch with your inner fire, your drive for the job, what is essential to you (caused by routine, repetition, context)
• And you don't see the meaning or value of what you do anymore.

Or you're bored out: You have no passion for your work at all

• You feel numb when you think about your work, you feel turned-off and have no vibration & energy within
• It feels repetitive and boring and you feel useless as you're doing monotonous, routine tasks that doesn't challenge you
• You have been searching what to do but don't really know which path to take, you lost your inner compass. It feels pointless sometimes & without any sense.

You already have explored many ways to get yourself reconnected to your passion or purpose. You did a lot of personal development and they have brought you tremendous understanding about yourself... You have followed many courses, training, watched many videos online and read many books to help you find what makes you vibrant – and flourishing. You have been searching for what makes sense – to you. And you want to create something meaningful and “be part of the solution” but you're still not sure what that solution may be for you and which actions to take next.

You feel exhausted and wonder “what am I doing wrong?”. Something has to change.

If you are currently or chronically unable to identify your own way Resonant Feedback might help you:

• reinvigorate a project, a desire or a dream,
• see things from an enthusiastic angle
• reanimate a dynamic within
• gain more clarity through either a one-time boost or a more deeper inner exploration.

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It was very helpful to get such clear input on what I was saying. It really is so validating to have someone truly listen & then give honest feedback – proper feedback on what I do and what I represent. When I presented the ideas for my program, you really listened. It helped me to feel that the offers and the program I am developing really makes sense. It's flowing now! It's helpful to hear you speak my thoughts back to me and very empowering. The whole experience has been validating as your perspective is supporting me being true to myself, aligned with my core-center. Nathalie

I had coaching with Coralie in order to focus on how to develop my business in terms of my offer and target audience. In the process of doing so, Coralie was able to support me in digging-deep to connect with my real sense of purpose coming from my own challenges and struggles in earlier life. From this, I was able to see how these experiences continue to inform not only the way I see the world, but the way in which I want to change it; enabling me to be clearer upon my mission of supporting others in their personal liberation. With great empathy, Coralie was able to ask me the just the right questions and reflect-back skillfully upon my answers to support me in connecting with my own wisdom and finding my own truth. Shaun

The Quick Spark: 1h (US $85)

This quick boost is great when you lost momentarily your spark. You have a new project and you wonder if:

• It is it the right one?
• It does reboost you or it drags you down?
• You're doing it for yourself or to fit other people's expectations of you?
• It does truly resonates within you?

This is a short targeted chat to help to get clear on a project you're doing &/or focus exclusively on what makes you tick in your current situation to get quickly back on track.

The Inner Glow: 2hrs (US $150)

This intense dialogue helps you to figure out if:

• Your particular principles & values are embodied in what you do every day (in your professional & personal life)
• You are sensing that you are not true to yourself but you don't know why?
• You felt you have lost your inner compass and need to re-ignite your inner vision?

This is an intense deep chat in which we look at the current state of the situation (blockages felt, resources identified, envisaged direction...), what attracts you and makes you vibrate and see where you are most aligned within you to get yourself back on your axis.

The Deep Vibe: 6hrs + 1h (US $500)

A big dive when you feel estranged from yourself.

You are deeply bored or burned out and you feel disconnected from your values, desires, gifts, resources. You wonder if what you did before makes any sense? And this fuzziness makes it hard to clarify your intention and acting it out.

This is a deeper exploration of 4 sessions (1h30 each) to be done within a month and one follow-up session of 1 hour to reveal – free up and highlight the connections between what touches you, what attracts you, what drives you, what you like you and what you have done this far (your ethic & values, approach, way of doing thing & intention) and find the congruence within. The goal here is to reconnect to what does rings true and vibrates within you.

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Goal

The intention of the Resonant Feedback is:

• to facilitate the process of uncovering the resources within,
• help you see what animates you to your deepest core and
• integrate the congruence between your vision, values and actions you take. From that new posture, you may either revise your way of doing things by staying in the same activity – and reorient your actions through little tweaks , or shift the framework entirely through taking a whole new path.

Who the work is most suitable for

You may be a leader, an entrepreneur, a manager but also a former or an actual employee.

And you're either burned out: You remain attached to your job-craft-company... but

• You have become exhausted, you constantly feel tired
• You've lost touch with your inner fire, your drive for the job, what is essential to you (caused by routine, repetition, context)
  
• And you don't see the meaning or value of what you do anymore.

Or you're bored out: You have no passion for your work at all

• You feel numb when you think about your work, you feel turned-off and have no vibration & energy within
• It feels repetitive and boring and you feel useless as you're doing monotonous, routine tasks that doesn't challenge you
• You have been searching what to do but don't really know which path to take, you lost your inner compass. It feels pointless sometimes & without any sense.

You already have explored many ways to get yourself reconnected to your passion or purpose. You did a lot of personal development and they have brought you tremendous understanding about yourself... You have followed many courses, training, watched many videos online and read many books to help you find what makes you vibrant – and flourishing. You have been searching for what makes sense – to you. And you want to create something meaningful and “be part of the solution” but you're still not sure what that solution may be for you and which actions to take next.

You feel exhausted and wonder “what am I doing wrong?”. Something has to change.

If you are currently or chronically unable to identify your own way Resonant Feedback might help you:

• reinvigorate a project, a desire or a dream,
• see things from an enthusiastic angle,
• reanimate a dynamic within,
• gain more clarity through either a one-time boost or a more deeper inner exploration.

---

It was very helpful to get such clear input on what I was saying. It really is so validating to have someone truly listen & then give honest feedback – proper feedback on what I do and what I represent. When I presented the ideas for my program, you really listened. It helped me to feel that the offers and the program I am developing really makes sense. It's flowing now! It's helpful to hear you speak my thoughts back to me and very empowering. The whole experience has been validating as your perspective is supporting me being true to myself, aligned with my core-center. Nathalie

I had coaching with Coralie in order to focus on how to develop my business in terms of my offer and target audience. In the process of doing so, Coralie was able to support me in digging-deep to connect with my real sense of purpose coming from my own challenges and struggles in earlier life. From this, I was able to see how these experiences continue to inform not only the way I see the world, but the way in which I want to change it; enabling me to be clearer upon my mission of supporting others in their personal liberation. With great empathy, Coralie was able to ask me the just the right questions and reflect-back skillfully upon my answers to support me in connecting with my own wisdom and finding my own truth. Shaun

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1. The Quick Spark: 1h (US $85)

This quick boost is great when you lost momentarily your spark. You have a new project and you wonder if:

• It is it the right one?
• It does reboost you or it drags you down?
• You're doing it for yourself or to fit other people's expectations of you?
• It does truly resonates within you?

This is a short targeted chat to help to get clear on a project you're doing &/or focus exclusively on what makes you tick in your current situation to get quickly back on track.

2. The Inner Glow: 2hrs (US $150)

This intense dialogue helps you to figure out if:

• Your particular principles & values are embodied in what you do every day (in your professional & personal life),
• You are sensing that you are not true to yourself but you don't know why?,
• You felt you have lost your inner compass and need to re-ignite your inner vision?
  

This is an intense deep chat in which we look at the current state of the situation (blockages felt, resources identified, envisaged direction...), what attracts you and makes you vibrate and see where you are most aligned within you to get yourself back on your axis.

3. The Deep Vibe: 6hrs + 1h (US $500)

A big dive when you feel estranged from yourself.

You are deeply bored or burned out and you feel disconnected from your values, desires, gifts, resources. You wonder if what you did before makes any sense? And this fuzziness makes it hard to clarify your intention and acting it out.

This is a deeper exploration of 4 sessions (1h30 each) to be done within a month and one follow-up session of 1 hour to reveal – free up and highlight the connections between what touches you, what attracts you, what drives you, what you like you and what you have done this far (your ethic & values, approach, way of doing thing & intention) and find the congruence within. The goal here is to reconnect to what does rings true and vibrates within you.

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Thanks to the covid, I have limited myself big time. Fearful of movement, I have restrained my ability to give my body the wide range movement it craves. It did impact the way I think (staying in the bx rather than thinking creatively in new ways).

Even though I have been reading about movement thanks to katy Bowman and Movnat I have not done much about it. I have blamed our skinny living space, our lack of money, the rent situation, my lack of skills regarding making furniture...

Doing with what I have and make it the best is actually the best exercice I can do to learn, think creatively, impact the environment in the best way possible and develop my own autonomy.

To move, I need to create space for it. With a bit of organisation, some well thought furniture, some cleaned space and props, I believe I can do it. I did well with my kitchen. I believe I can do the same in my living space.

The purpose of the space will be for :

• exercicing
• work for both my partner and I (normal desk for him, floor desk for me)
• learning and teaching (my partner asked me to coach him and teach him english)

As for the activities of visioconference and calling, I'll have to find another space in our flat as my partner does work from home and does call support...

I'm going to make a moodboard, find out what I can sell to lighten what we have and what we don't need, look for some courses to create furniture and find out what tools I need to do it.

Cheers!

Ok. This is my “return to my blog” post.

It's been a couple of months since I've published anything. I have been going through a lot. Some highs some lows and I was trying my best to keep up the paces. I hoped for some stuff to come through (jobs and studies) and while there were some positive signs, things fell through a number of times...

I just couldn't share anything with anyone. I felt stuck and I just couldn't share the bluryness, the anger and sadness of the situation I lived in, namely having no job, no finances, a breaking up... and a need to have my own space... fast.

I definitely went through the “I'm no good” mode. I kept on applying for jobs, doing my best to write the best letter and having a cv but it happened that it actually wasn't because of me but more of an age thing! For some jobs I was too old (45 years... gasp) and for the studies it was ok but because of how the government is sustaining more of the youngsters right now, well... I was too old again.

I really needed to change the status quo. While at the moment of writing, nothing concrete has yet happened, something is shifting in me – albeit slowly but surely – thanks to some great people I've encountered. I'm more than willing to look at what I need to bloom and not thinking of it as a far fetched long dream... I have a desire to align myself with the values I stand for and making it a reality in my own life.

What I want to set up as soon as possible is a movement-rich environment (yes I'm going with the furniture-free trend... wait! That's actually not a trend... or if it is well OK! I'm trendy then!) using low tech when I can for developping my creativity, zero waste to learn more about my consumerism, urban permaculture to act on creating some food for myself and eating a more diverse tasty and yet simple cuisine... and definitely developping more autonomy for myself.

I need to do this for my Self. I want to do it. Let's.

When you're stuck, it's hard to feel independent and autonomous. You feel helpless and although it is really worthwhile to engage with others for the boost and the wisdom you will have from the interaction, you can help yourself by devising your own program and get a better grip of your current personal situation.

1. First of all, make an inventory of your situation:

   • finance (our relationship to money, how we feel and our beliefs)
   • environment (where we live, a space of one's own or not, relation to objects)
   • relationship (in couple or not, interaction, trust, tensions)
   • professional activity (paid job or not, exciting...)
   • accomplishments (fulfilled dreams, regrets, experiences...)
   • emotions (boredom – emptiness – anguish – fears...)
   • would like to feel... (free – enthusiastic – fulfilled – accomplished...)

2. Determine your why ?

   • to move towards more autonomy and independence.
   • give meaning to his life rather than that imposed by others
   • feel in my true place
   • feel a sense of connection with others while respecting one's own needs
   • bring out the best in you (authentic)
   • Dare to be yourself with others

3. Determine how you want to get things done – your values?

   • My ways would be to do things in line with permaculture vision which are → Start small → keep it simple → respect needs and “terrain” (we're all different so are the solutons)
   • Also I want to abide with ethical/holistic/resilient principles**
   • Are there other skills, know-how, aptitudes, techniques, postures to be developed

4. Something else that can be interesting to note or do are

   • What are the steps that reveals your repressed needs
   • What you want to manifest (Law of Attraction)
   • What would help you develop your imagination and creativity
   • Which areas-domains of interest needs to be attended to make things happen.

Mine are learning, relationship to money, relationship with my spouse & family, housing, professional...

This is only a beginning, a draft that it is good to develop and deepen to make a “Road-Map “.

You

This blog might be of interest to you who

• have had troubles with finding your own voice and trusting yourself.
• would tend to lose yourself as if your identity was and might still be fluctuating. permeable, always on the lookout for the opinions of others with a great fear of following your path.
• may have had an infantile upbringing-childhood and a feeling of anger towards yourself and to those who brought you up.

If you are able to perfectly assume yourself, to earn your living by doing exactly what your heart dictates (you manage to perceive what you like...), this blog might not be of interest to you.

It may even annoy some of you who do know how to take responsibility for themselves... If that's the case, I'm so happy for you. Truly.

It means that you have reclaimed your own path, raised your awareness and freed yourself from the bonds of submission. That is not a small feat. Kudos to you!

And if your childhood's memories are associated with a positive outlook, it means that you were surrounded with people who understand the importance of raising you to be an accomplished human being!

Here I may share ideas that have worked (or not) for me or for people I know of. Nothing I write can be the only way and every one has to find their own path. That is actually the beauty of it and I so love that. Watching how each one creates their own way.

Me

For those who don't know me...

Choosing that particular path and wanting to work with you particularly is of course not a coincidence.

My upbringing was stifling, repressive and didn't welcome proper individuality. It was hard to think for myself and when I did, I was made to think otherwise or else. Instead of talking for myself, we talked for me unless asked for. I was supposed to be a good girl and do as I was told. So I went from behaving submissive to being a confident depending on what was asked of me. My grades were crap to keep a low profile with also some fear that whatever I would earn would be taken away from me.

I was deprived of unconditional love and everything I did was to get some. We made promises to me in exchange for some price... Most of the time they were broken. But I really wanted to be loved so I tried as much as I could to be that which we wanted of me. It drove me to a profound lack of self esteem. Unable to see what was good about me and undervaluing what I did well.

I could go on and this is not to pity me. I had to take some steps and make some changes who were needed for me – like cutting all ties with my families – but the most important part is what I got from it.

I learned to navigate through others behaviours and emotions. Finding clues about a person desire and understand the cause of what was or could trouble them. I became very good at listening the change of someone's emotions. I learned about the importance of ethic and authenticity as well as the importance of reclaiming your own path and surround yourself with people who can really see you and not a projection they would make about yourself.

I also learned about the importance of caring for your own needs instead of waiting for someone to do it for you. To do this, of course, it's important to know what those needs are... as well as what you love and what makes you tick.

What I'm most passionate about? People! Discovering what moves them, touches them, makes them get up in the morning...

Today, I want to do my part and instead of wanting to help everyone and anyone because it's my nature to help, I want to focus on you who yearn to reclaim at last your own original Self.

This is something I'd like to develop for myself and share that with others as it can be a great help to remind ourselves of * our talents * interests * what is easy for us to make – do – ...

And it could be a great reference to get back on track when we lose ourselves when for any reasons when we feel * disconnected * unclear ideas * influenced in a way we don't want to...

This may help to create such a map:

1. Developing our understanding of what has prevented us from feeling independent and autonomous
2. Finding what sparkles my interests:
   • going back to childhood
   • looking at what is feeling easy to me (eg: techology and understand how git works ;)
3. Looking at what puts me down
   • my energy level (and how I feel in my body – mind – emotion) is a great indicator
   • developing an awareness of what I am responsible to and finding a balance between it and what is going on in the world (not an easy one this one)
4. Defining my personal ways of learning (and more generally of doing – thinking or relating to things)
   • to make things easier and more pleasurable to us and quicker
   • that may depend a lot on what sparks my interests (cf 2.) but other parameters might be taken into account
   • the environment I am in
   • the people I interact with
   • the tools I'm using
   • the values and ethics I stand for...
5. Find what can sustain and care for my special needs to keep my energy level up
   • need for good adapted food and movement
   • fun activities
   • relaxation times (meditation)
   • ...

This is one of the project that has not been shared but matured this last years. Some have been implemented in my own life, others didn't and I feel that thanks to the people I have exchanged in the Qoto Community – Special mention to Rob G. – I can dare to express what I have been longing to put my heart into as well as going deep into the stuff that I care about: learning to develop ourselves as a great human being we ought to be.

If you have any comments, don't hesitate to follow me on Mastodon and chat with me.